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Nov. 29th, 2014 06:54 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
miss_lucy21Family Thanksgiving went well. My cousin's kids are ridiculously adorable and excellently behaved kids. My parents don't exactly have a large amount of kid stuff, given that they haven't had small kids in 25-ish years, but the girls amused themselves extremely well with some of mine and my brother's old puzzles, a couple of books, a pad of paper and a pen, and some of my mom's tupperware and measuring cups (they pretended to make cakes. The 4 year old kept coming into the room where we were watching the football game and telling us what kind of cakes they had on offer. She also kept giving us "breaking news" reports on a battle between the "ninja turtles and the dinosaurs, but it's okay, because they're good guys"). The baby was very good natured and happy to get passed around, so I got my baby holding fix.
My other aunt and her husband showed up semi-unexpectedly. They were invited, of course, but my aunt kind of neglected to tell my mom they were coming until they were on the road this morning. It was no big, we had more than enough food, but it's very typical of my aunt. I had been hoping they weren't coming because while I love my aunt, I really dislike her husband (her taste in men is roughly equivalent to G Callen's taste in women. Yeah). At least this guy doesn't seem to be outright abusive like her ex-husband? (you will notice, I do not refer to either of these men as my uncle). But he is kind of vaguely controlling in a "you'd lose your head if I wasn't here to keep it attached" sort of way that sets my teeth on edge. Now, my aunt almost certainly has undiagnosed ADHD and her level of executive functioning impairment is worse than mine, so um, yeah, someone does need to help her keep her head attached, and better a husband than her kids (who used to be the ones doing it, and yes, that is exactly as much of an issue as it seems, although they seem to be doing okay. The youngest will be 18 in January, so he's the only one still at home), but it still sits badly with me. But he was mostly well behaved today and somewhat less obnoxious than usual. I'll take it.
And my aunt who does the Healing Touch did actually make my neck feel better and my headache is gone on the right side. It's much less on the left side, too. She thinks something's blocked in my sinuses (not out of the realm of possibility), though. I was already planning to hit up the ENT next year once my health savings account refills (I put enough into the account to pay my deductible and pay for my glasses each year, which saves me money because it's pre-tax money) because 2 years of 4-5 sinus infections is a bit excessive. But I'll take the looser neck, for sure.
My other aunt and her husband showed up semi-unexpectedly. They were invited, of course, but my aunt kind of neglected to tell my mom they were coming until they were on the road this morning. It was no big, we had more than enough food, but it's very typical of my aunt. I had been hoping they weren't coming because while I love my aunt, I really dislike her husband (her taste in men is roughly equivalent to G Callen's taste in women. Yeah). At least this guy doesn't seem to be outright abusive like her ex-husband? (you will notice, I do not refer to either of these men as my uncle). But he is kind of vaguely controlling in a "you'd lose your head if I wasn't here to keep it attached" sort of way that sets my teeth on edge. Now, my aunt almost certainly has undiagnosed ADHD and her level of executive functioning impairment is worse than mine, so um, yeah, someone does need to help her keep her head attached, and better a husband than her kids (who used to be the ones doing it, and yes, that is exactly as much of an issue as it seems, although they seem to be doing okay. The youngest will be 18 in January, so he's the only one still at home), but it still sits badly with me. But he was mostly well behaved today and somewhat less obnoxious than usual. I'll take it.
And my aunt who does the Healing Touch did actually make my neck feel better and my headache is gone on the right side. It's much less on the left side, too. She thinks something's blocked in my sinuses (not out of the realm of possibility), though. I was already planning to hit up the ENT next year once my health savings account refills (I put enough into the account to pay my deductible and pay for my glasses each year, which saves me money because it's pre-tax money) because 2 years of 4-5 sinus infections is a bit excessive. But I'll take the looser neck, for sure.
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Date: 2014-11-30 08:15 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2014-11-30 10:21 pm (UTC)And I'm critical of the pattern, but not of my aunt, if that makes any sense. I mean...my mom, my other aunt and my grandfather walked a very fine line for many, many years of "someone I love is being abused and I want to get them out" and "she's a grown woman who gets to make her own choices" before my aunt finally left her ex-husband after something like 20 years of marriage. I don't see the same kind of red flags with this guy (and he is very well aware of what happened in her first marriage. And he hates her ex-husband) so at least it's an improvement. But again, adult, own choices, etc.