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[miss_lucy21]

Sometimes, when I screw something up, I have to stop and think: Is this something that a "normal" person might also have done? In other words, am I being too hard on my beleaguered brain for not performing up to some arbitrary standard that no one meets 100% of the time.

Because, yes, yes, many, if not close to most, of my fuckups are ADD related. They're things that most people do occasionally, but I do frequently. And while there's things I can do to mitigate that (this is why I love systems. Systems mean that there's a routine and I don't have to remember), sometimes, no, there is not.

At the same time, though, no one, even the most neurotypical person in the world, gets things right 100% of the time. And to try and hold myself to neurotypical standards is pretty stupid. Trying to hold myself to perfect is impossible. It's impossible for everyone. And I forget that, all the time.

So, in short, the fact that I completely forgot that my PayPal was linked to my old bank account when I used it to pay for an online order at Lands End (more new work clothes! On super sale, no less) is something anyone could have done and therefore I can quit obsessing over how much I hate my brain. Right?

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[hagar_972]

If you haven't used it in a while, and since those things are almost designed to be see-through? Yes.

[ernads]

I would have certainly forgotten such a thing as well. Those things don't have any hold on my brain, I am afraid.

So, yes, no need for you to obssess over this, although I know that it's more easily said than done. (am an expert in self-chewing.)

[miss_lucy21]

It's hard to stop obsessing, yes. But I managed pretty well, once I got the overdrawn account fixed (deposited a check from the account I thought I was using on my way to work). But laying it out in print does help- then I can read it and go, "oh, yeah, honey, that's not such a big deal. You're okay."

[miss_lucy21]

Yeah, I don't buy things that often, honestly. So, I need to go update that, like, now.